How To Relax

Man Repeller’s Leandra Medine told us Tuesday she meditates for twenty minutes every morning. Though we once tried and failed at sitting still, we decided to give it more of a 360-degree shot and plug Michelle Williams’ meditation guru – Kelly Morris – for manageable tips on how to relax. Some of it includes meditation, but much of it includes quick tips on how to de-stress, because we’ll all need to tell ourselves to once post-labor day panic hits…

Kelly Morris’ Ten Tips For Relaxation

Relaxing in a town like New York City is like trying to relax while being mugged. Everywhere you look, the city is begging you to flip out and move to Alaska. The New Yorkers I work with are some of the city’s smartest, most talented people. There is a real pressure to be their best and to remain at the top of their game. Here are a few of the tips I give them to make city life a bit more heavenly.

1. Do yourself the biggest favor and learn how to meditate. It’s hands down the fastest way to feng shui that mess called your mind. My coaching clients sign an actual contract agreeing to meditate. Not much changes without it.

2. Watch your mouth. Every time we say something negative, we attract that very thing right to our door. Time to uptick your chatter. Avoid gossip. Try this rule: no talking about anyone that isn’t in the room.

3. Be nice to people. Everyone. From the deli guy, to the cabbie, to the doorman, to your Mom. And remember, Periscope is watching. You could be broadcast to millions the next time you get highhanded with that waiter who brought you Evian instead of Panna.

4. Clean up your diet. Processed food, GMO food (that’s everything not specifically labeled ‘organic’), sugar and caffeine all serve to make you nuts. Try Rooibos tea with organic half and half and a touch of low-glycemic agave. It’s like dessert for breakfast and calming at the same time.

5. Get a Tui Na massage once a week. Many of my clients love massage but don’t love the amount of time it eats up. Greasy, lavender-scented hair anyone? Chinese massage means no Enya, no oil, no naked, no candles. In other words, no fake foreplay. You walk in, leave your clothes on, get the rub of your life and leave, makeup intact and all stress gone. You can stay for ten minutes or two hours; it’s up to you. Generally, these places can be on the grimy side so are not for the fastidious/hygienically sensitive.

6. When life goes left, do as Mom said and count to ten before blowing someone’s head off with a volley of expletives. Wait a day before sending that ripping email. Wait until your emotions have come full circle before you reply to anything emotional. It’s hard to do when every part of you is straining to press send but try to wait. You won’t regret it. My clients thank me everyday for that small advice.

7. Go to bed. Get off your devices. You’re about to marry that phone. It’s on the pillow next to you; it’s the last thing you look at before bed and the first thing you look at in the morning. If you are going to be on them, get the protective gear from Arjuna, which blocks all the deadly rays of cancer and whatnot beaming down at us from cell phone towers and glaring at us from our ipads/laptops/cells/desktops, to protect yourself.

8. Put your bare skin on nature at least once a day. I don’t care if it’s just your palm on a tree for three minutes while you check your phone. The deadly free radicals immediately drain out and the negative electrons immediately start flooding in. This means health and youth for you. Skip Sephora and hug a tree instead.

9. Stop talking. Someone handed me a card that said ‘Stop Talking’ at a party while I was…talking. I laughed out loud. Talking is a chore, more than you know. Everybody’s trying to be heard. Grace them with your still and open expression, with your gentle and encouraging silence. They will love you for it and you will feel calmer. Plus, the karma to be heard is to listen to others. Listen how you want people to listen – like you are a total genius and they are falling about in admiration.

10. When things go wrong, experiment with finding it totally okay. The train is late? Ah yes. I will read. The boyfriend cheated? Ah yes, I will break up with him. Suffering is the result of resisting reality. Make like a Daoist and flow. Life is a series of triumphs and tragedies, after all. Resistance is futile. Find the upside, the silver lining. It’s there.

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